Did the title “Tips to potty training” spark your interest to read more? You might have done lots of research and nothing so far has worked. Maybe you have not really found the ‘style’ that suits you and your child.
We believe that each child is unique and therefore there is no ‘single’ way to do potty training. In this article we have asked a few parents their approach to potty training. And together we will offer you various ways that we have done potty training with our own children.
This then allows you to gain real life experiences and pick one of the ideas that you know will fit your child. You can also ‘pick and mix’ and take a bit from different methods. Then you will create your child’s own individual potty training program and by doing so, setting your child up for success.
So – in our household we have adopted a ‘pressure free’ approach to this huge event in our children’s life. We have allowed ourselves to be guided by them.
Perhaps influenced, in part, by my background in Psychology and counselling – Freudian theory suggests that forcing this stage of the child’s development can have repercussions for later phases of the child’s life. This is about control. The only one who can control this process is the child. So, we do best in supporting our child to feel in charge of this process!
I suppose my top tips could be summed up in these bullet points:
Our approach was to wait until our son showed signs of being aware of what was going on with his body.
Despite lots of pressure from my mother, we resisted the urge to start until he was ready This wasn’t until he was very nearly three. So please pay no attention to what your friends children are doing – all children get there in their own time.
When we knew our son was ready, we took him shopping and bought some pants with trains on that he took interest in and then talked him through what would happen.
We bought 2 potties – one to be kept downstairs near in the downstairs toilet and one upstairs in the family bathroom.
Then we bought a travel potty which would be essential whilst out and about.
We put the potties in place for a few days whilst he was still in nappies and told him when he wears pants he will then use the potty instead of going in his nappy. He was quite excited about the idea.
We also bought a great book which included some stickers we could give him every time he used the potty. Our son liked stickers, so this seemed a good idea.
When we started, it went well initially. Wees were successful, however, poos were another story! For a long time, we had to deal with poo in pants which was pretty horrible.
We asked for Health Visitor advice and they said that boys sometime take longer getting the hang on things and just to keep persevering. Well it did work; it just took a bit of time and stress.
With hindsight, I would recommend being very matter of fact about accidents. I remember that we kept asking him why he didn’t tell us he needed a poo. And we did show our disappointment when he had an accident – which definitely wasn’t a good idea.
When we go through it with our daughter, who is very nearly ready, I will deal with accidents completely differently: matter of fact, ‘oh you’ve had an accident. That means we need to get you cleaned up and change your pants’. Fingers crossed it goes smoothly this time!
We were led by my daughter and looked out for signs that she was ready. We also found out when other children were potty training at nursery so that our daughter felt she was learning with other children her age.
We had been reading “Princess Polly” for a little as she seems to be a bit of a visual book learner! We had always had an open door policy to going to the toilet. So she would have seen myself and my husband go to the toilet since she was born.
We did eventually pick a weekend in the summer where she could run around naked outside. So it didn’t matter if she had an accident and placed the potty in the garden.
We made sure we had no plans that weekend. So there was no pressure of being out and about.Then we created an environment that would allow her get to the potty if she needed to, rather than trying to quickly find a toilet.
We also invited her older niece around after day 3 to show her how to use a potty which seemed to help. She had a special sticker chart where she got a star every time to she went on the potty and washed her hands. My daughter seemed to take to potty training fairly quickly. I think it was because she was ready and I also think it helps she has ridiculously strong bladder control!
As the other mums have mentioned we picked a moment when our daughter ‘seemed’ ready. However, in reality it had to be timed due to me being a teacher and needing to do it during a holiday break! She got her special big girl pants, which she decided wearing on her head. That was of course much more fun!
I am a reader, so I think I read everything on the subject before I decided my way forward. We found story books at the library and purchased some of our own that introduced the idea of toilet training to our daughter. I seem to remember one about the Little Princess being a favourite.
We went down using a bit of ‘bribery’. I ordered Peppa Pig toys (small ones) and emptied them into a box. When our daughter used the potty or the toilet correctly, she was able to pick a Peppa Pig toy from the box. When she had an ‘accident’ she did not, but she was not reprimanded. It was more an ‘oh dear’ moment. It took roughly a week to ‘crack’ and then we moved onto only giving her positive reinforcement and praise rather than than the gift.
Our daughter took to toileting better than she took to the potty. So we very quickly upgraded and went straight to toilet use. We still had a potty ‘suitcase’ that lived in the car, that could be used in emergencies but she rarely needed it.
Signs that they are ready for potty training:
Don’t over praise; the child might feel that he/she has done something ‘bad’ if they don’t do it the future
Never show your child that you are unhappy with their level of potty training – this might effect their self-esteem later in life
We hope you have been able to take something from our tried and tested methods. Do get back to us and let us know how potty training has been in your family.
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